My boss asked me today about Hinduism/Buddhism and detachment. “How,” she wondered, “do you have a detached marriage?” “And if you love someone and that person dies, are you supposed to not grieve?”
I don’t know the answer. It’s something I’ve wondered about myself, though I haven’t given it much thought in a long time.
My husband also thought that the Gita says not to feel at all–never to laugh too hard, or cry. And I disagree with that to an extent. I think the Gita says to feel the feelings, but not to let them govern your actions. Self-control, basically.